{"id":25,"date":"2008-04-21T06:36:00","date_gmt":"2008-04-21T13:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25551729.post-2888142200255525036"},"modified":"2009-07-06T09:29:32","modified_gmt":"2009-07-06T16:29:32","slug":"got-potential-2008-04-21-133600","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gotpotential.org\/fruit-of-the-spirit\/got-potential-2008-04-21-133600","title":{"rendered":"Fruit of the Spirit – Kindness"},"content":{"rendered":"

Purpose <\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/span>
\n<\/em><\/strong>
\n<\/span><\/span><\/a>Vol. 2 Issue 6<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/a> February 7, 2008
\nThe weekly newsletter from True Potential Publishing<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/strong>
\n<\/em><\/strong>
\nBut the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d (Galatians 5:22)<\/em><\/p>\n

Kindness <\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

When I told my wife I was writing about \u00e2\u20ac\u0153kindness\u00e2\u20ac\u009d this week, she choked \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m sure it was just a reflex action; nothing personal. But still, I figured I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d better do a little more research.<\/p>\n

It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s funny how sometimes a thing can be so important and so obvious and so easy to overlook all at the same time. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Kindness\u00e2\u20ac\u009d might be one of those things. Especially for men.<\/p>\n

Let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s look at the definition of kindness: \u00e2\u20ac\u0153sympathetic, helpful, friendly, thoughtful, gentle, well disposed\u00e2\u20ac\u009d \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 it almost sounds effeminate, doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t it? Maybe kindness is women\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s territory. Women are the nurturers, the caregivers; they build the nest and care for the young.<\/p>\n

Men are warriors, protectors, providers. They\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re job is to leave the cave, kill something and drag it home. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Kindness\u00e2\u20ac\u009d sounds a little girlie for a man\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s world. That\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s what we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve been taught, right? Listen to the TV psychologists. When they talk about men being kind and sensitive to the needs of others they say that we need to \u00e2\u20ac\u0153get in touch with our feminine side.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

My feminine side is my wife. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m okay with both halves of me being masculine.<\/p>\n

If it sounds like I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m picking on men it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s because I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m prejudiced by my own experience. Kindness doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t come naturally to me. Rough and tumble comes natural. Battle and conquest, no problem. But not kindness. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not that I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m a mean or cruel person; it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s just that I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m a man \u00e2\u20ac\u201c and probably a typical man. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m sure there are a lot of naturally kind and sensitive guys out there; they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re just not crowding out the rest of us.<\/p>\n

When I say that kindness doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t come naturally, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t assume that unkindness does. Unkindness implies action and intention; that somebody is doing something unkind. What I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m really talking about is lack of action and intention on the kindness side. Intentionally doing acts of kindness as opposed to not intending anything and letting nature take its course. And when nature takes its course guys tend to fall short on kindness.<\/p>\n

Rather than dig myself any further into this hole, why don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t we just get on to kindness in general.<\/p>\n

*****<\/strong> <\/span><\/div>\n

Kindness, like the other fruit of the Spirit, is really an attribute of God. The reason we are to practice kindness is because He practices kindness \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 on us.<\/p>\n

\u00e2\u20ac\u0153But when the kindness<\/strong> and love of God our Savior appeared he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy<\/strong>.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em> (Titus 3:4-5a)<\/p>\n

But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind<\/strong> to the ungrateful and wicked. 36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em> (Luke 6: 35-36)<\/p>\n

Kindness isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t a state of mind or a mood; it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s an action. And until it becomes a natural part of who you are, it needs to be an intentional action. That means until kind actions flow naturally from you because your heart is filled with kindness you have to practice kindness.<\/p>\n

Kindness isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t just a matter of helping an old lady cross the street or rescuing a cat from a tree. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not just good deeds you put into your schedule as part of your \u00e2\u20ac\u0153practicing kindness master plan.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d This kind of kindness really doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t get in your way. It doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t require that you change your schedule, your lifestyle, or your mood. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Kindness Lite \u00e2\u20ac\u201c \u00e2\u20ac\u0153do nice things without really changing your day!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

Sometimes kindness doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t work out that way.<\/p>\n

Remember the story of the Good Samaritan? (Luke 10: 30-37) I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t need to retell the whole story, everybody knows it already; let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s just hit the high points.<\/p>\n

The beat up guy in the ditch was a Jew. The Good Samaritan was \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 well, a Samaritan. These two groups didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like each other, they didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t associate. The Jews reviled the Samaritans and the Samaritans knew it.<\/p>\n

The Samaritan had a schedule to keep. He was apparently a man with business to conduct. He wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t poor and he was on the road to somewhere so we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve got to assume he had things to do and people to see. He didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have a lot of time for distractions.<\/p>\n

Helping the Jew in the ditch was going to cost the Samaritan time and money, and there was no promise of ever getting reimbursed. Knowing the injured man was a Jew and knowing what Jews thought of Samaritans, there was wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t much hope of even getting thanked.<\/p>\n

The Samaritan dragged the injured man out of the ditch, dressed his wounds, set him on his own donkey and brought him to an inn, where he could have a bed and be cared for. The Samaritan, already late for his appointment, stayed the night with the injured guy at the inn. The next morning he paid the innkeeper in advance and promised to return and pay any further expense for the traveler\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s recovery. The Samaritan made sure the guy was taken care of; he followed through and followed up.<\/p>\n

Sometime kindness puts you into contact with folks you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d really not prefer to have contact with. Sometimes it forces you to go out of your way and totally wrecks your schedule. Sometimes there are out-of-pocket expenses you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re probably not going to recover. And once you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re involved, kindness often requires some follow-up to make sure the job\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s completed. Kindness can be intrusive like that.<\/p>\n

The Good Samaritan story brings up another side to this kindness coin I really ought to mention. God first practiced kindness to us so that His mercy would lead us to repentance. What that means, is that God has given us a massive break that we might, in turn, give others a break. When we fail to show kindness to others, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s like spitting on the kindness God showed us. And that does not play well with God.<\/p>\n

\u00e2\u20ac\u0153Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s kindness leads you toward repentance? <\/em>
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\n5 But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed. 6 God \u00e2\u20ac\u0153will give to each person according to what he has done.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d\u00ef\u00bb\u00bf 7 To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. 8 But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em> (Romans 2: 4-8).<\/p>\n

Remember the first part of the Good Samaritan story? After the guy gets beat up, robbed and thrown in a ditch, two people pass by; a priest and a Levite. Both of these men were Jews; their brother was beaten and lying in a ditch, naked. The first guy, the priest, was a religious leader, supposedly a representative of God. The second guy, the Levite, was a civic leader, folks in town looked up to him. Neither man could be bothered with their brother in the ditch; they had schedules to keep. I would not want to be one of those guys on Judgment Day.<\/p>\n

Kindness is a serious business. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s serious because of how God showed kindness to us and what it cost Him. We didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t deserve His kindness; He provided it out of the goodness of His heart. In light of the great kindness He did us, He doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t take lightly the little kindnesses we do each other. We practice kindness and we reap immortality. We take His kindness too lightly by neglecting kindness to others and we are subject to His wrath.<\/p>\n

*****<\/strong> <\/span><\/div>\n

One more thing about kindness. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s pretty important so stay with me.<\/p>\n

Kindness might not have anything to do with helping strangers. It might have to do how you treat those you know real well. Practicing forgiveness and forbearance is practicing kindness. (Forbearance is an interesting word. It means \u00e2\u20ac\u0153to control one\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s patience,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d \u00e2\u20ac\u0153not give way to anger,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d to endure,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d \u00e2\u20ac\u0153to tolerate.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d) This kind of kindness doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mess with your schedule or your or your pocketbook; it messes with your mood and with your rights.<\/p>\n

Listen to your spouse and your kids and your parents and the guy at work who always has something to say. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t listen to answer back, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t listen to show what a great martyr you are by listening \u00e2\u20ac\u201c just listen. When a careless word offends you, let it roll off your back like Teflon. When your kid screws up by acting like a kid, don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t blow up; put your arm around her.<\/p>\n

Be aware of this:<\/strong> those you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re around every day are the ones to whom you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re most blind to your little unkindnesses and they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re the ones who will be most profoundly affected by your little kindnesses. Practice kindness with those you know best \u00e2\u20ac\u201c your spouse, your kids, your parents, the folks you work with every day. They\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re the one\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s who know if you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re a hypocrite or not.<\/p>\n

By the way, my wife says I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m getting better at this \u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 I think she\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s just being kind.<\/p>\n

Until next week. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Be kind<\/strong> to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/em> (Ephesians 4:32)<\/p>\n

Steve Spillman<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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